Day 18: Be realistic in your expectations
As a good friend of mine likes to say “expectation management” is the key. When we are not realistic with what our expectations are of something we leave ourselves open for chaos, frustration or hurt. By claiming simplicity even in our expectations we are allowing ourselves to be surprised when things go well and not overly disapointed when things don’t go as planned. We all have expectations, and they’re not bad to have, but just make sure that they don’t get out of hand and become bigger than they should. (Is that day/event really going to be the best day ever, of all time, amazing?)
A side note on expectations: In the counseling world they say that an unvoiced expectation is NOT another person’s resonsibility. If you didn’t tell them you expected them to do something then you shouldn’t really get mad at them for not doing it. Be realistic and know that humans are not mind readers.
Journal thought/prompt: When was the last time your unrealistic expectations ruined your day? Did you realize this at the time, and correct them? Think about the expectations you place on things & people and try to simplify.